Life doesn’t always come out like we planned. Teri Morley Garzon always new she wanted to get married and have a family. She just never thought she would be giving birth for the first time as a midlife mom.
Teri’s original plan started out pretty typical of most women. She went to college, served a mission for her church, and then settled in to her career, working in the airline industry. She relocated a few times, had different roommates, got promotions — all the while hoping to meet someone to marry and spend the rest of her life with. That opportunity finally came to her when in June, 2000, she met her future husband, Oscar, a fellow flight attendant with Southwest Airlines. They married in May, 2003 when Teri was just 5 months shy of her 40th birthday.
Both Teri and Oscar wanted to have kids but Teri’s midlife age was considered a high risk for pregnancy. After a year of trying on their own, nothing happened. Time went on and when Teri was 43 going on 44, she approached her doctor about the different options available to Teri and Oscar. Her doctor’s response toward Teri getting pregnant in midlife was, “Not probable, but it is possible.”
Along their journey, there were a couple of setbacks. Teri suffered two miscarriages. They decided to try in vitro fertilization but the specialist they met with insisted they could never use Teri’s eggs and recommended they use donor eggs. Teri “did not want to go there.” She left his office in tears.
After all the emotional and physical ups and downs, Teri and Oscar came to the conclusion to just let nature take its course. And apparently that was the key, because in 2009, Teri found out she was pregnant. What did she attribute their midlife miracle to? Using a Clearblue Fertility Monitor.
The monitor measures hormones in urine and helps to determine up to 6 fertile days during a cycle. The first cycle Teri used it, nothing happened. But on the second cycle since using the monitor, Teri was pregnant. Teri was 45 years old!!!
Teri had a “great” pregnancy. She stopped flying immediately and experienced all the “normal stuff” of a regular pregnancy. She had some morning sickness but just the first trimester. Other than that, there were no complications and no serious problems. Even though she felt good, Teri was still worried the whole time; worried about miscarrying. Because of those fears, she didn’t really enjoy her pregnancy.
On May 26, 2010, Teri, age 46, delivered by C-section, a healthy baby girl. The doctors felt this was a “miracle baby” and treated the delivery as such. Her delivery was scheduled due to a higher risk of the baby being stillborn, especially if she went over her due date. The baby was given the name Holland Christine which represented religious feelings for Teri and Oscar. Holland was for Jeffrey R. Holland, an Apostle with The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and Christine was after Teri’s mom and for Jesus Christ.Teri has noticed more older moms these days. How does being a midlife mom compare with Teri’s much younger counterparts? Teri feels being a midlife mom has made her “appreciate the experience so much more.” She feels she is much more calm and doesn’t get upset too often. She does find there are some physical challenges to being a midlife mom that younger moms don’t experience. Things like getting down on the floor to play and getting back up again. And then there are the hurtful comments from rude people. Teri tries to combat those negative reactions by “being around positive people.” On being a midlife mom, Teri says, “I am so grateful to have the experience. It’s a wonderful thing to be a mom. I had a close relationship with my mom and to have a daughter is so great. I am blessed.”