Whenever I hear or read the name Lucille Ball, a smile can’t help but beam across my face. She is one of my favorite TV stars of all time. Her “I Love Lucy” show was a staple of my growing up years. I watched every show a million times. Sure, it was old-fashioned, black and white, from an era that was unfamiliar to me. But it was a classic. I couldn’t help but laugh out loud whenever I watched her crazy antics. And laughing out loud made me feel good.
Lucille Ball is a wonderful, positive memory in my life. So, when I came across a quote from her this past week, I took notice:
“Love yourself first, and everything falls in line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
I have known people (and I bet you have too) who think they love themselves and they show this so-called love by putting their needs and wants first, ahead of their spouse, their children, their co-workers, their friends. That is not loving one self. That is just plain being selfish. To really truly love yourself is to have confidence in who you are, to be comfortable in your own skin. When you sincerely love yourself, you don’t have to worry about pleasing others or loosing yourself in someone else’s identity. Hopefully, those agonizing feelings were worked out during the teenage and young adult period of life.
I remember when I finally became secure in myself. It was when I finally realized that I actually liked the individual that I had become and no longer fretted of how I appeared to others. It was such an empowering feeling. I didn’t compare myself or put others down to make me feel better. Rather, I embraced my own uniqueness and likewise learned to treasure the uniqueness of all I’ve come to know. It is when you finally reach this point, of honestly loving yourself, that a magic overcomes you. Instead of focusing only on who you are and your needs, you begin to focus on others and their needs. If you are to successfully “get things done in this world,” your loving must include reaching out and lifting others as a part of our daily routine. When this attitude and action is a part of your every day life, then your life has authenticity and everything else you need to do really does fall into place as Lucille Ball declared.
This is one of the reasons why I love being at this stage of my life. Life’s lessons are becoming more obvious and more true. Wisdom is manifesting itself. It isn’t about me but rather how I use the trust I have in myself to make the world a better place. February, is the month of love. Love for all because I love me.